Excerpt: “[Mild jealousy] can indicate that the partners are still in love with each other enough to care and feel threatened by the idea of [their] partner being attracted to someone else or that someone else is attracted to [their] partner,” Yvonne Thomas, licensed psychologist, tells Bustle. “This mild jealousy ‘mistake’ can actually breathe some life into a relationship that one or both partners may have felt was complacent or stagnant.”
Read the Article on Bustle.com about the pressures of aspiring to be perfect and the mistakes that can happen in relationships. Relationship Therapist Dr. Thomas discusses the virtuous side of “mild jealousy”, which in itself, she says, is not an unhealthy thing.
Excerpt: “‘It’s your fault that I’m unhappy.’
Although many of your favorite memories and experiences have been shared with your partner, you might also be quick to blame them when you’re going through a funky phase. The truth is, if you’re unhappy in your relationship, it’s likely a mix of disconnect and what’s personally happening in your life. “You may be playing a very passive role in the relationship in which you are unhappy rather than being more proactive in finding a productive, healthy way to deal with,” Los Angeles-based psychologist Dr. Yvonne Thomas, Ph.D., says. “You shouldn’t say this to your partner because it can decrease his or her self-esteem and can make him or her shut down, lash out, or both. Ironically, by saying this to your partner, you each may end up feeling even more unhappy and alienated.”
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Relationship Therapist Los Angeles
Dr. Yvonne Thomas is a widely-cited Los Angeles Psychologist and Relationship Therapist. She provides consultations with clients in her West Los Angeles office and has been interviewed by dozens of major publications with her expertise on relationship, marriage and anxiety issues. You can reach her at 310-359-9450 or fill out her contact form for a free consultation.