EXCERPT: You’re Having a Baby & Your Friend’s Not. Set the precedent NOW — before your little one arrives — to send out one text or email a week (at least!) to see how your BFF is doing. “Paying attention and inquiring about your friend’s welfare helps the friendship stay on track where it’s still about the two of you, rather than just about you and your impending baby,” explains Yvonne Thomas, Ph.D., a Los Angeles–based psychologist specializing in relationships.