Los Angeles Psychologist EXCERPT:
How to Release Regret — and Why It Holds Us Back
If you’re guilty of clinging to what could have been, here are some ways to release regret and move forward:
Usually, regret stems from an experience where perhaps, we could have handled the situation better. Maybe you said something you wish you could take back. You denied a job offer that would have made you happy. Or ignored a phone call you should have taken. Whatever the case, it’s vital to engage your logical side rather than dwelling on the intense emotions accompanying the regret.
This helps you release the regret because you are looking at it with realistic eyes, explains psychologist Dr. Yvonne Thomas, Ph.D. “You can identify if the circumstances were expected or unpredictable and if the situation was under your control or not. Then, you need to determine what you should have done or not done to reach a more healthy result. By evaluating all of these factors to see if you could have changed the outcome of the situation to a more positive one, it helps you to objectively determine if there genuinely is a reason to feel regret or not,” she says.