Here’s Why You Should Find Someone Who Teases You
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Got a minute? Cool. Close your eyes and think of your best friend. You’ll probably think of a goofy moment you shared, or how they’ve been there for you during a dark hour. But one quality that tend to bonds two people together—apart from a shared distaste of something or an obsession with something else—is how they can, well, make fun of one another. Your number one pal would hop on a plane whenever you needed them, but they will also be the first one to call you out—or ahem, tell you when you’re being #annoying. A recent study unsurprisingly revealed the same can be said about romantic relationships, finding that those couples who tease one another a bit, tend to be happier and more successful in the long-term. As you continue on your search to meet the right person, with whom you can promise until-death-do-we-part, or promise to complain about your farts with, consider these tips from experts on the fine art of teasing.
Use pet names.
If you’re a pet owner, you probably have about half-a-dozen names for your animal, other than their actual title. And the same with your sister or friend from elementary school. Part of teasing is giving one another funny names, which actually create intimacy and bond you together, according to psychologist Yvonne Thomas, Ph.D. When you call ‘em by this particular nickname that’s reserved for you—and only you—it can recall a funny memory, or help you feel as if you’re inside your own little world.
Teasing allows you to use humor, instead of anger.
Another benefit of a relationship that welcomes the occasional burn here-and-there is it allows couples to work through their problems with humor, as opposed to anger, according to Rogers. “Issues will always be present in relationships – but it’s up to the couple on how they decide to work through them. Making light of the situation and having a laugh instead of having an argument can do wonders for relationship satisfaction,” she explains.
Yvonne Thomas Ph.D. is a Los Angeles Psychologist. To read the full article “Here’s Why You Should Find Someone Who Teases You” visit datezie.com