“No, you’re wrong.”
When your partner is — in fact — incorrect about something, what’s the harm in this phrase, right? Well, um, wrong. As much as you can, psychotherapist Dr. Yvonne Thomas, Ph.D., says to avoid point-blank statements that your significant other is wrong. “This kind of phrase leaves no room for even considering if anything your partner is saying about something is valid or valuable,” she explains. “A phrase like this can immediately put your significant other on the defensive because it can feel like a complete dismissal or rejection of his or her thoughts and/or feelings.”
Depending on the delivery, this phrase can always come across as condescending, offensive or arrogant. Instead, Dr. Thomas recommends taking a beat and consciously thinking about your partner’s position based on his or her thoughts and feelings with an open mind. Then, you can genuinely address with your partner what you do and don’t agree with them on the topic and do it in a collaborative way.
Yvonne Thomas, Ph.D. is a top rated Los Angeles Therapist. To read the full article “These 7 Phrases Cause the Most Fights in Relationships” visit weddingwire.com