At the start of the next lap around the sun, psychologist Yvonne Thomas, Ph.D., recommends setting a resolution to say exactly what you mean and how you feel… in the moment. This makes it more likely you’ll immediately catch and misinterpretations or misunderstandings, which are the cause for plenty of relationship troubles. “If there is any confusion, the partner can restate his or her words in a clearer way and then have the significant other reflect that back to verify he or she is hearing the right message from the other,” she continues.
That’s why Dr. Thomas suggests incorporating compromise into your 2019 resolution. “Compromise is a necessary element in a healthy relationship because it means that both parties are getting some of their needs met within their union and that the relationship is one of respect and fairness,” she explains. “Be aware that with compromise, no one gets all his or her needs met, but there’s more or less a ‘meeting in the middle’ where both parties are represented.”
Yvonne Thomas, Ph.D. is a therapist in Los Angeles. To read the full article, “Relationship Resolution You Should (And Shouldn’t) Make” visit datezie.com