Share yourself slowly.
Love, at first sight, is a lovely thought but in practice, it isn’t exactly sustainable. While you may be initially attracted to a person and be stunned by how magical your initial dates are, taking your emotions day by day will help you open up more naturally. Psychologist Dr. Yvonne Thomas, Ph.D. says to share parts of yourself — emotionally, physically and so on — slowly. And acknowledge that it isn’t easy for you to divulge. “Preface the vulnerable thing you are about to share by directly informing the person that what you are about to tell him or her is not easy for you to say, but that it is your way of letting yourself be more fully known and real to deepen the relationship. By doing this, you are clearly letting the other person know that you are to be taken seriously in what you are about to share with him or her and that you are trying to add even more substance to your relationship together,” she explains.
Yvonne Thomas Ph.D. is a relationship therapist in Los Angeles. To read the full article “Why Vulnerability is Important in a Relationship” visit datezie.com