As Valentine’s Day approaches, you may be wondering why you are still single.
Perhaps you are having difficulty meeting the “right” one and/or being able to have a reasonably healthy, long-term romantic relationship.
There certainly can be different reasons why things haven’t worked out for some singles looking for love, including poor timing, ill health, or circumstances beyond one’s control.
However, working for over twenty years as a licensed psychologist in Los Angeles area with individuals and couples has opened my eyes to several psychological reasons that also can be disruptive and damaging to one’s romantic success and longevity.
For the purposes of this column, I will target three of these roadblocks that I have run across in my practice:
1) perfectionism, 2) the people pleaser tendency, and 3) and being stuck in a subconscious pattern.