1. “Wait at least two days to return his call. If you appear available, he won’t want you.”
Her Misguided Motivation: A pal who dishes out ridiculous dating rules is likely unsure about trusting her own instincts when it comes to men. “Sticking to a set of guidelines, even if they’re cliched, makes her feel more confident,” says Los Angeles psychologist Yvonne Thomas, PhD, who specializes in relationships. It could also be that she’s noticed you have come on too strong with guys in the past and scared them off. “She might be trying to steer you away from a technique that’s not working but doesn’t want to hurt your feelings by telling you outright that it’s what you’re doing wrong,” Thomas adds.
What She Should Have Said: “Why play games if you really like this guy? Call him today if that’s what you feel like doing.” The fact that he touched base with you in the first place is a pretty clear sign that he’s interested. So, don’t hold back if you’re into him. “You want to start a new relationship being completely open and honest,” Thomas asserts. That, obviously, is not to say you should text him half a dozen times a day should the urge happen to strike. A good rule of thumb to follow in this situation: Get back to him within the same amount of time that you would want him to return a phone call.
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