Compliment, Complain, Compliment
When you point out what’s bothering you, don’t just come right out and tell her what she’s doing wrong. In an interview with Cosmopolitan, Yvonne Thomas suggested hiding the complaint between two compliments. If you feel she leans on you too heavily, tell her, “I love that you feel you can trust me in a time of need. But sometimes it seems like you only contact me when you need me to do a favor for you. I’m happy to help you out whenever I can, but I would really love to spend some time together just having fun, too.”
Don’t Focus On It
If her toxic behavior isn’t harming you, but just annoying you — like someone who will talk about themselves for an hour before even asking how you are or someone who tends to focus on the negative — try to concentrate on her good qualities. Sure, she can be a bit of a Debbie Downer, but she’s always there when I need her to listen. By trying not to harp on her adverse qualities, you’ll be able to focus on why you actually do like about having her as a friend.
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