How to Give Your Partner Constructive Criticism
We know, it’s tricky.
When you’re in a long-term, loving relationship, you want to be your best self. Not only for your partner but for the life you’re building as a team. Sometimes, this means changing certain qualities, being open to growth, and receiving feedback. It’s normal to feel a little self-defensive when receiving constructive criticism, yet it is part of effective communication.
As psychologist Dr. Yvonne Thomas, Ph.D., explains, constructive criticism typically involves correcting someone to provide insight rather than being punitive or derogatory. It’s meant to improve, not diminish—but there is a fine line between the two.
“It can be tricky to give constructive criticism to your partner because they may hear the message as predominantly critical rather than recognize the positive intent of it,” Dr. Thomas says. “Even if you’re doing well as a couple, finding the right words to convey the positive nature of your constructive criticism can be difficult and, thus, make it too easy to sound critical in one’s delivery of the message.”
Dr. Yvonne Thomas, Ph.D. is a therapist in Los Angeles who offers relationship counseling. To read the full article “How To Give Your Partner Constructive Criticism” and learn how to approach this type of discussion with ease and effectiveness visit weddingwire.com.